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We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress, and suffering. Instead of letting them go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy, we cling on to the memories and events of our past. Well, you can change that, starting right now, today. You are going to learn how to identify those things that no longer serve you and give them up, which will begin the process for you to embrace the change. Ready? Here you go. These are the tools for you to implement in your own life, right now, which will accelerate the process of letting go of your past. 1 . Give up your need to always be right. There’s so many of us who just can’t stand the idea of being wrong, wanting to always be right, even at the expense of ending relationships that are causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the urgent need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right? Or would I rather be kind?” This comes from Wayne Dyer. Now what difference will that make? Or is your ego really that big? 2. Give up you need for control. Be willing to give up your need to control everything that happens around you whether they are situations, events, people, and it doesn’t matter who they may be – workers, co-workers, strangers, your loved ones – just allow them to be. Allow everyone and everything to be just exactly as it is and just watch how much better you are going to feel. “By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. When you try and try, the world is beyond winning.” –Lao Tzu 3. Give up on blame. Give up your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life. 4. Give up on your self-defeating talk. Now this is a big one. How many people are hurting themselves right now because of their negative, polluted, and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Here’s a rule of thumb. Don’t believe anything you mind tells you, especially if its negative, and self-defeating. You are way better than that. Eckart Tolle says, “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, and it becomes very destructive.” 5. Give up your limiting beliefs. About what you can or can’t do. About what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings, and you fly. “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” – Elly Roselle 6. Give up your complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many things in your life – people, situations, events that make you very unhappy, sad, and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy. No situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s...read more
Feeling down? Depressed? Stuck in a rut and don’t know how you can get out of it? Remembering how life used to be so good, and now it seems all the good times are in the past? Are you haunted by past memories, experiences, or traumas you want to forget, but you don’t have the tools to do it? Here’s a quick and easy tool which can help you to rally against the forces trying to pull you down, and bring you back to the joy you had, and can always have from now on in your life. I call it the Bliss List. How to create your bliss list Sit down with a blank piece of paper and write at the top of the page ‘My Bliss List’. Make sure when you do this, there are no distractions, it’s quiet and peaceful, and allow yourself the time to really sink into the deepest part of yourself so that you can hear what makes your soul sing. Meditating for 20 minutes before you do this is highly recommended. Write down 100 things which brings you joy. You want to discover within you what it is that connects you to your bliss. Ideally, you want to list as many things as possible which are not dependent on anyone or any thing to give it to you. It is a feeling that comes from within whenever you see something, hear something, do something, smell something, taste something, or feel something. Activate all your senses and feelings. Examples might be: walking in nature seeing an eagle soaring in the sky watching the sunrise over a beautiful mountain lake eating a juicy peach smelling a rose snowflakes on my skin the sun on my face the sound of the waves of the ocean riding a horse writing Your bliss list can involve another person or persons, say for instance, you love long, slow, wet deep kisses, or you love spending time with friends, or going to a football game with your brother, or a baby’s laugh, having some of those are great! Without question there are many joyful experiences you have with others, and they can be included, but I want you to emphasize finding the things which give you joy which you do only for the joy of it. This list in not about them, it is about you. Once you have composed your list, read it over, make sure you are satisfied with it (you will know this because it makes you feel good inside, it makes you feel happy to read it), then, make copies of it so you will have it in various places for you to refer to when needed. A great place to put one is in your car. Another great place is in your office. The exercise in creating the bliss list is a way for you to connect with what truly gives you joy without being dependent on anyone else. The purpose behind it is to give you a tool to help you interrupt the pattern of disquieting and disturbing thoughts and memories which intrude upon your daily life. When a negative, painful thought or memory comes in, you go to this list right away. You want to scratch the record of the unconscious...read more
I’m going to give it to you all here, in this blog, everything that I do. I want you to have this so much, and as time allows, I’m going to share it all with you, on this blog, all that I have done, everything that I do. So you can do it for yourself too. It will be faster with me, if you come in, but I’m going to give it to you regardless. At the foundation of my program are the principles of non-violence and peace. It uses Gandhi’s principles of non-violence, along with the principles of a Course in Miracles, a spiritual meditation practice rooted in love, forgiveness, and peace. This is what makes mine different from all other approaches. From this foundation does my program draw its inspiration. Although it is rooted in spirituality, it does not demand you believe in God, what it does require is a genuine desire to transform your life. Without that deep desire, no program will work, regardless which one it is. The core of my program is modeled similar to Mind-Body therapy, and is a complete mind, body, and soul healing. It takes the mind, body, soul connection, it builds belief systems, it improves what is already there, it teaches emotional regulation, and problem solving. It begins by really connecting to who you were before PTSD. Who were you? What were your dreams? etc., a lot of time is spent reconnecting to your true self. Then, we look at what your life would have been like if this didn’t happen. What would you have done? From there, we begin to remove the obstacles to becoming that. Once we’ve realigned with who you really are, set that as our guide and destination, we then begin to approach the trauma or traumas keeping you held back from being that ideal version of yourself. This space is completely loving, non-judgmental, and safe for you to go to where you can be completely felt, be completely yourself, completely human. We completely deconstruct anything that has kept you from being who you truly are and which has kept you separated from another human being. Whatever you might be ashamed of, angry about, guilty of, etc., anything that you have compartmentalized. We learn to understand the good that came out of it, and the lessons you learned. You learn how to make peace with the past so that it doesn’t control and destroy your present. We break down the belief systems that have kept you imprisoned in your own mind. You learn how to let go of attachments and all that does not serve you in the fulfillment of your life. You learn how to replace negative thoughts and feelings with positive ones, and you incorporate meditation to create space in the mind and slow down the thoughts that invade your peace. What meditation does is it also allows you to experience the present now. By becoming consciously aware about right now, how you feel in the present moment, and using several meditation techniques to assist you, will help you to bring clarity and peace to the mind. We also remember and re-discover the things that brought you joy and take the time to do them. Yoga, movement meditation, massage therapy, and energy cleansing is...read more
Right now purchase one session and get the second session free. Just email me a copy of the receipt at charlespacello (at) gmail (dot) com and mention this promotion. Buy at my book a session page. Thanks for your support and I look forward to your transformation into the you you were meant to...read more